Search in ARCHIVES

relationships

Today is the Day

This morning I conducted a memorial service and one of the friends of the family mentioned that she enjoyed my articles in Joy! Magazine. Her husband kindly added that he had been blessed by the sermon, and these two comments inspired me to produce this short article.

Psalm 90 verse 12 reads; ‘teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.’ How many days do we have left on this planet? None of us know and often our lives here terminate suddenly and unexpectedly, so it is important that we make the best use of the days we have on Earth. Yet often we spend our time, energy, and passion on things that have little or no eternal significance. Some people dwell on past triumphs, disappointments, hurts, and achievements, but the past is gone and cannot be relived. Other folks worry a lot about future finances, politics, or their children’s prospects, yet we cannot control the future no matter how much we worry or plan.

This is why Jesus said; “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today” (Matthew 6:34).
Of course the Lord Jesus had in mind only our tomorrows on this planet when He told us not to worry, for He taught comprehensively at other times that we should be very mindful of our eternal ‘tomorrows’. Paul picked up on this when he wrote in 1 Corinthians 15:19 that ‘if only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are to be pitied more than all men.’ The Christian life begins here and now but it endures for eternity. So, we should not be worrying about our earthly tomorrow, but we should be giving serious consideration to our eternal tomorrow. What should be the focus of our lives today are the things that survive death and endure forever.

When my wife and I visited Hong Kong many years ago we were intrigued to see family groups at the shrines burning paper models of houses, cars and mock dollar bills. When we inquired about this we were told that they believed that by doing this their recently departed loved one would receive these material things in the afterlife. We smile indulgently when we encounter this sort of thinking yet so many of us do something equally irrational.

We burn up our precious time, energy, and talent to leave behind a legacy when we die.
Some people actually bring on their own early demise my burning themselves out in producing a business, a book, a work of art, or a large cash deposit. Somehow they believe that they can live on through their legacy. But we don’t continue to exist in this way; we live on literally, not just figuratively, for we are eternal beings. And we cannot take our legacies with us for the only things that survive physical death are relationships, formed and forged in the fire of today but enduring forever.

By far the most important relationship we can have is with the Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that the life purpose of every man and woman on this planet is to come to know Jesus, to become like Him, and to help others to do likewise. We come to know Him, and we become like Him in this lifetime; today. We help others to know Him and become like Him, today. Relationship with Jesus is today’s highest priority. Second in importance are our relationships with one another. The logic of the Christian relationship priority is simple: If I know Jesus Christ as saviour and lord then I will live with Him forever; and if you have the same sort of relationship with Jesus, then our relationship with each other will also endure eternally in Christ Jesus.

Life is so frenetic and pressured that many people seldom consider eternal things unless confronted by something like the death of a loved one. So I would like to invite you not to wait for that eventuality but to take this opportunity, today, to consider your eternal relationships. How rich and strong is your relationship with Jesus? What is the quality of your other relationships; are they fractured or whole, loving or distant? And please remember that these are the only things that matter in eternity – your relationship with the Lord Jesus and your relationship with others.

So, David’s words are very wise and we would do well to echo his prayer;

“Lord, teach me to number my days aright, that I may gain a heart of wisdom.”
 

Today is the Day Read More »

When the flame flickers low

I have to confess that I am amazed when I hear someone who has been married for forty years say “I am as much in love with my wife now as I was when we first got married.”

I would relate more to “I love my wife more now than I did when we got married” because love does mature. To be ‘in love’ though is something else altogether. The words evoke memories of a heady hormonal euphoria when everything was new and utterly charming. But this fades as the relationship deepens over time and, whether good or bad, we tend to fall into a comfortable rhythm of life with our partners.

Something similar happens in our spiritual life, and this is not surprising because Christianity is also relationship based. We love the Lord and we love His people but it all seems a little routine and stale. We pray, we read the Bible, we attend church, and on occasions we speak to unsaved people about Jesus. Yet the flame that once burned so bright now seems to be flickering low.

When we are honest with ourselves we realize that we aren’t altogether satisfied with a stale yet comfortable relationship, either with our spouses or with the Lord. But what is to be done about it?
In the book of Revelation Jesus address seven local churches and to the Ephesians He writes, ‘You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.’ (Rev 2:4-5) NIV. In this one succinct statement the Lord Jesus sets out what is needed to rekindle the flame of a relationship, either matrimonial or spiritual. Remember – Repent – Repeat.

CandleRemember when you first met Jesus as savior and lord? How did you feel? What engaged your attention? What was it about this relationship that intrigued and fascinated you? We need to remember so that we can appreciate the difference between then and now. Once we realize that what we have now falls short of what we had then, we repent. To repent means to change one’s mind and so we say, “I am sorry Lord. I want to be different. I want to return to the vitality of the relationship we once had.” But having remembered and repented, we still need to repeat.

Jesus said that we should do again the things we did at first. What do we need to repeat? What did we do when we first met Him? How did we behave? What took priority over our time and energy? I remember how I was as a new Christian. I couldn’t get enough of the Bible. I read it eagerly and studied it diligently because I knew that it was God’s Word to me. I was filled with wonder every time I learned something new about the nature and character of Jesus. I was determined to obey what it said and take seriously its guidance. Another thing that characterised those early years was deep desire to talk to other Christians about the scriptures, faith, and particularly about Jesus. I would sit them down at a table, get them a cup of coffee and then say “Now tell me, what does the Bible mean when it says….?”  And I was so totally engaged in my relationship with Jesus that it was natural for me to talk to unsaved people about Him. I didn’t Bible-bash or systematically evangelise, I simply witnessed, and chatted, and shared. Anyway, that’s how I remember it and I am sticking to my story.

So, if the flame is flickering low, then a way to fire it up again is to repeat the activities of the early years.
Read and study the Bible prayerfully and with expectation. Spend time with other Christians speaking about Jesus, not just about rugby or the economy. And witness to those who do not yet have a relationship with Him. Talk to them about Jesus as you would about your much loved life partner.

I know this is good advice when our spiritual flame is flickering low and I am pretty sure it also applies to other relationships, like marriage – Remember, Repent, and Repeat.

 

When the flame flickers low Read More »

About Me

My name is Christopher Peppler and I was born in Cape Town, South Africa in 1947. While working in the financial sector I achieved a number of business qualifications from the Institute of Bankers, Damelin Management School, and The University of the Witwatersrand Business School. After over 20 years as a banker, I followed God’s calling and joined the ministry full time. After becoming a pastor of what is now a quite considerable church, I  earned an undergraduate theological qualification from the Baptist Theological College of Southern Africa and post-graduate degrees from two United States institutions. I was also awarded the Doctor of Theology in Systematic Theology from the University of Zululand in 2000.

Four years before that I established the South African Theological Seminary (SATS), which today is represented in over 70 countries and has more than 2 500 active students enrolled with it. I presently play an role supervising Masters and Doctoral students.

I am a passionate champion of the Christocentric or Christ-centred Principle, an approach to biblical interpretation and theological construction that emphasises the centrality of Jesus

I have been happily married to Patricia since the age of 20, have two children, Lance and Karen, a daughter-in-law Tracey, and granddaughters Jessica and Kirsten. I have now retired from both church and seminary leadership and devote my time to writing, discipling, and the classical guitar.

If you would like to read my testimony to Jesus then click HERE.